Black Fathers Matter

Black Fathers Matter…….You Can’t X Us Out!!!

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A Not So Subtle Message

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Unless you’ve been in a deep sleep over the past several years, I’m sure you’re familiar with the Black Lives Matter movement. It was established as an online platform in 2013 by Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors and Opal Tometi in direct response to the acquittal of George Zimmerman. He was tried for murder and manslaughter after he had shot and killed a black Florida teenager named Trayvon Martin in a highly publicized February 2012 altercation. Before long, “Black Lives Matter” became a rallying cry for writers, public speakers, celebrities, demonstrators, and even rioters who took up the cause of demanding an end to what Black Lives Matter terms the “virulent anti-Black racism” that “permeates our society.” The core message within itself is not a bad thing except for the fact that it’s 2016 and you have to remind certain folk that your life matters. I guess you have to remind them that Black Fathers Matter as well.

Even though Black Lives Matter has been around since 2013, it wasn’t until last week that I decided to go to their website and what I found was alarming. As I was reading their vision of 12 Guiding Principles, I noticed that not one time was there any mention of Black fathers. You could see that it was very specific and crafted to make sure that Black fathers/men were not mentioned. That’s puzzling because the movement started based on unarmed Black men being killed mostly by White police officers. So is it safe to assume that the organization is just riding on the backs of Black men’s martyrdom to push an agenda that has nothing to do with me at all? Hmmm……………….

As I combed through the site, I found what the real agenda is the goal of “disrupting the Western-prescribed nuclear family structure.” The irony is that this has already happened to a great degree in the black community. Today, only 34 percent of black children — down from 67 percent in 1960 — are raised in homes with married fathers and mothers. Moreover, nearly 50 percent of black children live in single mother homes. Contrast that with only 20 percent did in 1960. In other words Black fathers don’t matter from Black Lives Matter’s viewpoint and we are making great progress. Using this logic, we should actively work to increase the number of black kids living in single mother homes, absent their fathers, right? Wrong!

Black Fathers Matter


Though Black Lives Matter professes to articulate the needs and grievances of black people as a whole, the organization deems it vital to go “beyond the narrow nationalism” that “merely” urges black people to “love Black, live Black, and buy Black.” That is, it focuses an added measure of attention on those blacks who, in the past, “have been marginalized within Black liberation movements.” These include, most notably, black “queer and trans,” who “bear a unique burden from a hetero-patriarchal society that disposes of us like garbage and simultaneously fetishizes us and profits off of us”; black “undocumented immigrants” who are “relegated to the shadows” of American society; black “disabled” people who “bear the burden of state-sponsored Darwinian experiments that attempt to squeeze us into boxes of normality defined by white supremacy”; and blacks who self-identify along non-traditional points of the “gender spectrum.”

In other words, there is no place for heterosexual Black fathers that are raising their children and especially if they are married to a woman. We are just non-existent except for playing the role of martyr for an organization that seemingly hates us. That makes the Black Lives Matter movement no different than these Black men on social media spewing hate for the Black woman. Neither one helps us because the reality is that we need one another.

Black Fathers Matter

Black Fathers Matter

Black Fathers Matter………….plain and simple. To takes us out of the equation is to effectively cultivate a culture of fatherlessness and that hasn’t worked too well for us at all. If anything, it has ignited the fire of rebellion. Can a woman raise a boy? Sure…..As a matter of fact, a child’s first teacher whether it’s a boy or girl is the mother. However, as that boy grows up and understands that there is a difference between himself and his female counterparts, a man need to be present to teach him how to be a man. Contrary to what this society tries to shove down everyone’s throat, men that are active participants in their children’s lives are essential to the home; especially Black men. This is a culture that pushes an agenda to make our Black boys effeminate at every turn and tries to convince our Black girls that they can do EVERYTHING that a man can do. It’s not so much an issue of can they but should they and the answer is no. Though we as Black men have had our share of challenges from both outside and inside sources, we are starting to wake up. Black Fathers Matter and we can’t be ignored!

Black Fathers Matter and for any organization that is supposed to be about the upliftment of our people but actively come against that standard is troubling if not evil. As a matter of fact, if I didn’t know any better; I would think it stinks of a more clandestine agenda whose roots could be found in racism/White supremacy. Why else would a Black organization would want to do away with heterosexual/straight Black fathers? Typically, when issues like this exist, you only have to follow the money. You wouldn’t believe who’s funding Black Lives Matter. I will cover that in a later post. Just know that evil has no bounds…………….


Much Love & Honor,

Bobby Patterson

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  • Kelley
    August 12, 2016

    Great post! I wish more people would wake up/do a little research and discover what BLM is all about. Many of their practices are very backwards.

    Thank you for this!

    • bobby
      August 12, 2016

      Thank you for your comment Kelley. Yes, just a little due diligence and critical thinking skills would at the very least be suspicious at what’s really happening here.


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